The Ups and Downs of Adultery

For as many times that I had been cheated on, the ups and downs were really crazy. There were times that I felt like I was crazy, in fact. I wanted to find out all that I could. As a matter of fact, I found myself doing things that I normally wouldn't have done. Looking at the numbers of his cell phone, writing them down and even calling a few of those numbers drove me nuts. I would never have done this, if I hadn't been so desperate. I have heard in the news of many a woman that did some really crazy things when she found out about a cheating husband. So, does this make us "temporarily" crazy? That makes me wonder. Some women can find out about her hubby's affair and can just move on, and others cannot. For me, it was like a time bomb. I wanted to confront "the other woman" and I wanted to know the whens, whys and all the answers in between. How do you get past this feeling? I know for me, it took years. I even think that I carry it around with me sometimes....other times, I just blank it out of my mind. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how they have handled a cheating spouse? If so, I would love comments, and maybe we can use those comments to help others who are going through this.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Well, I did the same things you mentioned, checking my wifes text message log on her cell phone statement, in which I found over a thousand texts back and forth over about a month and half time. I called the number and it was a man I knew and I called him a scumbag if this is what I thought it was. My wife wants me to apologize to him. Yeah right. But back to your question, I personally am at a point where I ask the question "does it really matter if I know all the details, it will just cause more pain to me, not to her". If someone doesn't care about you anymore and is willing to do things behind your back, what is the use of putting more energy into trying to solve the question of "Why, what, when, how did they cheat on me?" You have to look at it as it shows the low grade of their character and that you really are better off without that person in your life. Could you ever have a semblance of a normal relationship with that person again? I highly doubt it, unless you are willing to sacrifice much of you self-esteem and dignity. I would say if there are children involved, you might want to give it a shot, but otherwise, what's the point? Hope any of this helps, good luck and take care.