I'm Finally Having A Great Day!

Wow, this is really great....I am having a very nice day. I don't have any worries on my mind and I hope that the rest of my day goes as well. I have decided that I am not going to dwell on when he is going to call me next or even why. However, by chance that he may call me today, I am not going to answer his call. Why? Just because I don't want to. I don't want my day going sour on me. So, what have I done today? I was off of work today so I got all my laundry done. I cleaned out my freezer, a few of my food cabinets and have washed my hair and just took the day with ease. Yes, I did go and pay a bill and mail out my granddaughter a movie that I had for her, but nothing heavy duty today. I know that tomorrow will bring another day and it may not be as nice as today, but one can hope. I finally feel like I am putting one foot in front of the other now. It's about time!

When Will He Give Me Peace In My Life?

I am wondering what's going to happen next. I have been apart from my ex for quite some time now. I gave him a new life because he obviously didn't want to have a life with me and our family. I walked away, leaving him to have his freedom with those other two women that I found out about. I gave him what he wanted. I walked away with nearly nothing. For him, it seemed like he was happy with it all. He even got to stay in the house that we had bought together. That wasn't good enough though, because he started giving me trouble by contacting a lawyer and wanting me to pay on HIS credit cards when I had already helped him pay some of those off. It wasn't enough. He wanted more from me. I wasn't about to pay off credit cards that he uses for his business and customers, but he kept on. I was so fed up with him and what he wanted, that I signed my half of the house over to him....lock, stock and barrel. I got nothing back from him. No money for my half of the house. I got nothing but a piece of paper stating that I was no longer liable for the payments or the debt. That was a relief, in itself and I no longer had to help him on his credit cards. All I want in this life is peace. He has left me alone for awhile now, until those 2 phone calls. I am just sitting here in peace, and wondering when the other shoe is going to drop. What will he want from me next? And will I ever get peace from him and his needs?

He's A Sneaky Snake

Sneaky, indeed.....when he called me again to see how I was doing, I was starting to get annoyed at why he was calling me all of a sudden, and not even asking about how our daughter was or not saying one thing about her. I just listened to what he had to say because he never calls.  Now all of a sudden, he is unable to keep paying the house payment, and wants my grown son to move in and help him.  However, this really does make me mad now because when my son was moving out and REALLY needed a place to stay, the ex would not hear of it, didn't want any part of it, and was not willing to help him.  He has done an about face here and does he think that I am so blind that I can't see it? Did he think that by him offering my son a place that I would come around more? Possibly because my son and his wife just had a baby, my newest grandson, and of course I am going to visit more...... but, I honestly think it was a double-fold reason here because now he needs help in paying the house note and electric bill. Did he think that I would feel sorry for him?  Of course. I wanted so much to offer my help, but I just cannot.  I cannot regress at this point. I must stand up for myself and continue being strong.  I want so much to have my house back again, but I will not give up now and go back.  Sorry Ex snake--it's too late!

Times Have Surely Changed !

My how times have changed ! My mother raised me to get married, be a stay at home mom, and blah, blah, blah. Yes, today's times have really changed. I raised my daughters to be strong enough women that they would be able to support themselves if they needed to and to be open minded and talk things out when they were were having hard times. My mother taught me when I was young " just wait til your dad gets home!" yes, he was the disciplinarian. But in today's world, especially when the family is split up, the mother does most of the discipline, or if together, they don't wait until the other spouse gets home to do it. Dad always did the outside work such as cutting grass and taking out the trash, while mom stayed home and took care of kids and did the sewing and the cooking.....but today, even full time fathers have to do the inside work. Has everything changed because of women being more equal, or perhaps women having to work outside the home to be able to afford just the normal household bills? How did things change in such a quick period of time that it only seems like yesterday? I did, indeed, raise my children totally different than my mother raised me and my siblings. And honestly, my mother told me something way back when, and it was that even in my grandmother's time, there was cheating but they just didn't talk about it or deal with it in the way that we do in today's times.

He Called Me To See How I Was

I paused for a moment because right in the middle of working, I got an unexpected call.  Oh my gosh, it was from him.....my ex, who I have not heard from in MONTHS!  I saw that he had called one other time that I didn't hear my phone ringing. What could he possibly want? Why did he call? He never calls anyone. He had always told me that he doesn't like calling anyone but if they want to call him, then he will talk. That's a suprize, I guess he needed me to help him do something but what could it be?  Well, much to my suprize, he didn't want anything. Now, although I was amazed by this, I just couldn't help but wonder what he was up to.  He asked me how I was doing....wanted to know if I was okay and what have I been doing.  He said that he hadn't heard from me in awhile and he was curious.  Ok, by this time, I was floored.  That man hardly NEVER called me and it's been a very long time since I have seen or heard from him.  We ended the conversation nicely but it still left me leary of what he was up to.  Could he be having second thoughts about what he did to our family? Perhaps, but honestly, it's too late now. I thought that his call would take me back a notch or two, but I am happy to say, it didn't.   I am still on my way to recovery from this whole mess.  Thank goodness.