The Other Woman Gets Braver

Here I was, trying to make things work, the calls were still coming in, only they weren't always marked private. I had a chance to answer his phone sometimes, especially since I handled his business and there I was--getting hung up on. So, I called the number back. It was her work !!! oh my, she was getting brave enough to call him...she wasn't only calling from her work, but she was calling on a set pattern. I recon she was calling him EVERY morning, during every break (2) and every lunch hour and when she got home. I was getting to know more about "her", even though she supposedly didn't exist. I knew her name, turns out, that many years ago, when our daughter was around 3 or 4 years old, he met her through a job. They became "friends". I thought that maybe she was the one who kept harrassing him because he swore up and down that HE never called anyone....that they always have to call him because he didn't like making phone calls. Now, I know, this sounds funny coming from a man who has his own self-employment business. I called my mom and cried so much, she must have thought I was a crying machine. My mother was always there to listen, but she also gave me some advice along the way. One piece of advice she told me was "If he wasn't seeing her, or calling her, then why is SHE calling so much?"

Listen to what your mom says

My mom and dad came to visit. They really liked him alot. They noticed him coming in and out and told me that he shouldn't be coming in and out all the time. Well, I told them that in between jobs, he likes to be clean...and boy that is an understatement. He liked to shower several times a day. I never ever questioned him because I knew how he was. He came home kind of late while they were visiting and showered and left with dress clothes on like around 8 or 9 pm. Mom said "Something seems off here, as I don't know why he would need to go out for an estimate this late at night, especially with that pink dress shirt on". I sure wished I would have listened to my mother. She is wise beyond her years. Moms have an instinct about these things, but you know that when you are an adult, you still can be bull-headed about looking at things from your mom's perspective because you want to be your own adult. I told mom, well, I had become used to it and I trusted him completely. Boy was I wrong.