Birth Control After Divorce?

Birth control is something that most of us women have to worry about during our child-bearing years, unless you have had problems and have had to have a hysterectomy. While birth control is very important in a marriage/relationship for not having any more children, what do you do about it while going through a divorce or a seperation? Most women choose to keep taking it because you never know what your future will bring. Things may turn around and the marriage/relationship may come back together. Or should you so choose to start dating again or have a one-night stand with someone after the divorce is over? oops, did I say that? Always remember however, that although birth control is just that--a way of controlling pregnancy, that it does not protect you from any of those diseases floating around by having unprotected sex.

What Attracted You To Your Ex?

I was really not attracted to my ex in the beginning. He followed me around, told me how pretty I was and tried to catch my attention. I finally saw him one day during his work day and he was so polite. You see, my ex was a very nice looking man. He was thin, had a touch of curly black hair, the longest eyelashes you could only dream of having, cleaned up so nicely when not working, and was courteous and polite. My ex was always willing to help me out with things that I needed, handy man type things, changing a tire type of man, and a man that spoke very softly. He was always clean-shaven, and always had something sweet to say. Within time, I did fall in love with him. He became the love of my life. He was my everything in life. We were together for a couple of years before I became pregnant with our daughter, and that was a glorious time. What attracted me to my ex? Aside from all the outside handsome qualities, he seemed to have the strength and smartness to be able to do so many things. He even helped in the kitchen, and that's no joke. Washing dishes, cooking, even balling his own socks up and putting them inside the laundry basket. What else could a gal want? I never knew that he was the kind of man who would go behind my back with another woman and feel like it was okay to do so. Having him cheat on me ruined our marriage. Did I not see this in him in the early days of our relationship?

Have You Had Sex With Your Ex?

Going through divorce is hard enough, leaving you feeling lonely and blue, wondering why life has dealt you this horrible hand, also leaving you wondering what is going to come next. I wanted my ex to beg my forgiveness, come running after me with roses in one hand and a box of chocolates in the other, but what a laugh! that didn't happen. I wanted him to really mean sorry, not just say the words. Never happened. Once I got tired of all the running around, trying to make things right within our marriage and it not working, I finally grew tired of it and packed my things and left. That's right, lock, stock and barrel, packed up my personal things and was gone in a flash. Never again did I allow myself to be alone with him long enough for him to make any moves towards me, but he sure tried. I know that if I had stayed long enough during any of my visits to pick up my mail or get something that I forgot to get, that he would have sweet talked me into something that I didn't want to do. What about sex? Sure, it was wonderful with him, I can't deny that, but I never allowed him to have it once we split. I know that many do though, because it's the only sure thing you know, and of course, you aren't fighting when you have sex. Have you had sex with the ex? Did you regret it?

Happiness CAN Be Found On The Other Side

I am so proud of myself, which is something that I couldn't always say. I have been putting one foot in front of the other, marching my way back to my own self once again. I am not the same girl that married him, but I am a better me, now that we are divorced and apart, but it just didn't happen overnight. The road to recovery can be a long one, that's for sure, but it can also be a good one. I carried that cheating man in my heart for way too long. I know it now, but at the time, I just couldn't get over him. Afterall, I married him with the intent for it to be forever, but it didn't happen that way. I took a very long time to wonder about the why's and the if's of the whole situation but have discovered that those questions never got answered but I am here anyways! And I am here even better than I was with him. Yes, I still have things to work on, and I know that I will have times of regress, but that's just human. I know that putting one foot in front of the other is what I need to do now and I will continue on my journey for as long as it takes me. Happiness CAN be found on the other side....it just takes time.

Taxes and Filing

Well, it's tax time once again and I am filing my taxes on my own. I bet some of you out there are still filing together if you've just recently broken up or have agreed to file together. Filing your taxes can be a very complex job if you don't know what your'e doing. I have always filed my own, but then again, that's something that I know how to do. My suggestion is that if it's one that you are going to do that is straight and simple, then doing it alone should be easy, however if you don't know the answers, then it's best to find someone to help you. Doing taxes online can also make it a little simpler because it figures some things out for you. If you go to the US.gov site, you will also find that there are many online places offering to do the taxes for free depending on how much money you make. Well, I hope things go well for you this tax season...I am sure hoping to get a little bit back this year. Wouldn't that be great?