If You Have Been Cheated On, Should You Cheat Too?

If you are in a relationship where you are being cheated on, should you get revenge and cheat on your partner as well? My answer is no. Like my daddy always said, two wrongs don't make it right. We have all heard that saying and you know, he is right. If you have discovered your partner cheating, what good does it do to go out and do the same thing? It might give you a temporary feeling that the opposite sex still finds you appealing, it might also make you feel like you have gotten revenge, but is it worth it? Are you in a dead-end relationship? That's what you need to explore and find out to see where your relationship is going. If you are both cheating, it really is hard to sit down and discuss where you both have gone wrong. My best advice here, is to sit down and explore your options. Is your marriage/relationship salvagable? Can it be repaired to the point that it's a good foundation? Where do you go from here? First of all, make sure that your information is accurate. Then find a close relative, friend or clergyman to talk to....but make sure they are someone that can give you the point of view that's unbiased. Listen to different opinions but most of all, realize that you are the only one that can make that final decision. Sit down and talk with your partner to see if things can be worked out or not. Look for different options in this. Some people CAN work infidelity out. In my case, I tried it but he was not remorseful enough to give the other woman up and in the end, I spent YEARS being with someone who just didn't try. I wasted alot of time crying. Don't go out and cheat to get revenge because you might end up getting even more hurt because you are looking for answers and the other person doesn't have them.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I struggle with this one. It has only been a month since my husband told me that he cheated. We are in counseling and talking about it but I still have dark moments where I want him to feel the same pain that I do.

Anonymous said...

my partner cheated on me and got the girl pregnant. When we agreed to sort out our differences and move on together, we did not know she was pregnant. At that point it was easier to think about the future rather than the past. Now I can't get past the thought of them together creating a bleeping child .....the thought of being intimate with him kind of makes me ill now.....I don't know what to do...

Debbie said...

dear anonymous, I honestly think that no matter what, the child is innocent in all of this....you will have to decide if you love this man enough to accept his child with her and are able to accept his part in the child's life, however, if you cannot, then it's something that you must think about really hard and if you don't see being able to do that, then you might think about moving on. It's hard, I know, but whatever your decision, please think it through and weigh both sides of the matter before the final decision. Was your partner remorseful about his infidelities or do you think that he will go out and do it again? Only you can be the one to decide if you think you can get through this. You don't have to make the decision in one night.....think it through. I wish you the best.

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