Thinking About The "Other Woman"

After all, I am a person too. I hurt so much but I still have to keep on with life. Things seem to be at a stand-still sometimes when you are trying to find out if you are really being cheated on. I went through countless incoming phone calls on his cell. I worried myself over each and every single time that he told me that he was on his way home, but was more than the average time for getting home. I spent way too much time thinking about who it was and why they were better than me. I spent too much grief in my life wondering if she was skinnier than me, had prettier hair or perhaps wore more makeup than me. Why did it matter? To me, it was because he married ME, not her. And I wanted to know what made him want her over me. I felt inferior to her, but I shouldn't have. You see, it's not you !!! It's the one who is cheating that has the problem. It's him/her who doesn't see you the way they should see you anymore. They are the ones with the problem. If you have problems in your marriage or relationship, they are supposed to come to you to try and figure out a solution to what-ever it is bothering them. Together as a couple, working things out between you. Not with an outsider. I had to try my best not to let the "other woman" matter to me. It wasn't me after all.


thejunkyswife said...

Nice to meet you. I'm sorry you're going through this rough stuff. I've been on the giving and receiving end of infidelity, but I know how much it hurt me when I found out my ex husband had cheated. It's hard to know that everything you understood was true isn't.

Good luck to you and yours, and take care of yourself!

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

So true! Infidelity is about the cheater, not the person cheated on.

The Junky's Wife recommended I come over and pay you a visit. My husband is a recovering sex addict. I discovered four years ago that he had been unfaithful multiple times over the course of our relationship. That tore my world apart, and we're still working on rebuilding.

Lots of love to you as you work through it too.