Finding Happiness

Today I am in a pretty good mood and thought that I would reflect on what's going on in my life. I am very happy with how things are at this time. I have a beautiful daughter who's getting ready to graduate from high school, I have a great sister who listens when I need her to, I have friends who help me to cope with all my past stuff and I have a good future ahead of me. I don't think that I would have gotten to this point if I didn't have some sort of support. At times, when you are facing that challege of going through divorce or infidelity by your spouse/significant other, you may feel like you have no support, or that no one else is there to support you. And to be honest, the ins and outs of daily life still continue and it's hard to get through it, if you don't have a close friend or family member who is there for you, then perhaps you need to seek out someone who will listen. Meeting new people and finding new hobbies also helps.  You can find a support group online, a pastor or some sort of therapy group who may be able to help you sort things out, but first and foremost, YOU are the only one who can make the decision of what you need to do next. Nobody else can decide this for you. You need to be comfortable in what you decide and what's best for you and your children, if you have any. Being happy is very is so short and  you have to find a way to release your inner thoughts and get help. Is there life after infidelity?  DEFINITLY SO !!!


Allie said...

Your blog is compelling and very 'true'. I write a lot about infidelity on my blog, too (although my blog is not exclusive like yours). I wanted to share with you my series "Once More With Feeling" - there are 3 installations posted so far. I think we have a lot in common. Hang in there. Allie

brittany said...

my boyfriend of a year and a half. hes the love of my life and at first i never thought i would get over it but susan anderson's book "Taiming your outer child" help me ralize why he did it and why i am the way i am. i recommend this to EVERYONE! also add Susan Anderson on facebook and follow @Susan_Anderson_ on twitter!

Surviving Infidelity said...

I agree with this. When I first found out about my husbands affair I went straight to the internet and joined 2 message boards because I felt so alone and in so much pain I had no idea where to turn. Having them there whenever I needed them was such a blessing. I have since started my own support group in my area and even wrote a daily devotional for those who are going through a spouse's affair. No one should ever have to go through this alone.

majorshadow said...

My post break-up therapy resulted in a song. Hope it may be therapeutic to someone else.
Song Title: What did I do
Subject: A song about infidelity and the bogus sex addiction claim.
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Tired of the doom and gloom break-up songs, I decided to write one of my own. It's not professionaly done, however, I still wanted to share. My song is entitled, "What did I do".
This song was designed to empower the wronged individual without the wronged individual remaining a long-term victim. When we remain in a depressed state for too long, we are missing out on life. We are missing the opportunity to meet Mr. or Ms. Right. There will be times you just can't muster the strength to go out after a recent break-up. You must be patient and take one day at a time. You can't eat an entire piece of steak in one bite. To prove you can have a happy life without that person, just remember that you lived before knowing the person existed. Nothing will eliminate the mourning period, however, you must help yourself. Realize that you have options and deserve better. When someone breaks your heart, there is no magic pill, the antidote is time. Give it time and I promise you, your sun will shine again, and though you may not believe it right now, you will again love. Just think about the number of times you have ended relationships in the past. Yeah it hurt in the beginning, but look at you now.