Looking Back At Infidelity

I look back at the hard times that I went through infidelity with my now ex. Times were hard. We were both working and the kids were young. Today I breathe a sigh of relief that the pain and suffering of his cheating is behind me. I will never forget what he did to me, to our family, and to my self esteem....however, I can honestly say that I walked a very long way to get to where I am today. I learned that I do not have to put up with that ever again. I am much more cautious than I used to be. I know WHO I am today and no longer suffer with low self esteem. I no longer have to hear him put me down, say ugly things to me or my friends, and I no longer need to feel unloved. Today, I love MYSELF for who I am, feel stronger for what I have been through, and thank GOD that I have family and friends who love me. Living a life through infidelity has got to be one of the hardest things to have to go through. But you DON'T have to feel as though your partner doesn't love you anymore. You need to sit down and decide if you want to start off new, which means starting all over again....hard but you CAN do it, or....you can work things out with your partner/spouse ...but this means BOTH of you working on it, not just YOU alone. Partnership if for two people..not one alone, or three. But most of all, you must take time in thinking things through before you make any decision.


Marcelina Hardy said...

So inspiring for so many that deal with this - You are such a strong woman. Thank you for writing this!

Anonymous said...

I'm going through this same thing now. The pain of it is almost unbearable but what makes it worst is the toll it has taken on my self worth. And my husband expects me to forget it and move on. I haven't even had the chance to heal because he accuses me of bringing up the past so we can't even talk about it. The last time was only a month ago. It is inspiring to see that it is possible to be happy after it all. thank you