A Lonely Father's Day

How do you celebrate your ex's Father's Day ? My daughter has always wanted anxiously to go out and purchase her dad something special for his Father's Day gift, but something has changed this year. I don't know if it's because she is grown up enough to see how things are happening or she just doesn't have that sparkle about the buying gifts this year. Although child support just started back up again after a very long five-month halt due to an injury he had, he has not spent any time coming to see his beautiful daughter. Our daughter is a teen, full of life and love, but he just doesn't seem to care anymore. How will we be spending father's day? For the moment, I am not sure, but all our daughter bought this year was a card for him. I wasn't sure how to handle this, but I think that she is doing what she feels is best. Maybe she is starting to see how he treats her. How would you handle a father who doesn't want to come around to visit his children? He can come at ANY time to see her, pick her up or whatever and doesn't have the TIME for her. He is surely going to have a lonely father's day this year.....but will he even care?

What Does Adultery Show Your Children?

Adultery is something that's supposed to be forbidden in marriage but it's been happening since possibly since the beginning of time. Most of the time, we try and keep that kind of thing hidden from the children, but what happens when they find out? How can we deal with explaining it to them? First of all, it's really an adult matter and in my opinion, children should not have to deal with it. But, if they are older children, teenagers perhaps, and they find out about it, we do need to offer them an explanation so they can kind of try to understand. In my situation, my daughter was way too young to know what happened but my son was a teen, almost an adult and he knew already what was going on. I had to explain to him that even though "dad" was a good hard working man, dedicated to his work, he was not very good at being a "faithful" husband. He must have felt that he needed to be with someone else, even though I was trying my best to make everything right. I had to explain that dad's behavior was not supposed to be how a man treats his wife or a committed relationship. A true healthy relationship is supposed to be a trusted relationship with just the husband and wife. I knew that he understood me some, but in some ways, I felt that he was going to have to grow up a bit more to really grasp what was going on. I felt like I needed to let him know that this was not good because I didn't want him to think it was ok for him to do it since he saw his dad act this way. But no means was this an easy task. I think that talking to children about an adult's infidelity has to be extremely one of the hardest things to talk about.