Loneliness of Being On Your Own Again

Now I have issues to face, not only about sleeping alone and cooking for one less person, but I have to now deal with paying bills alone. I know that I am a good bookkeeper and have always paid all the bills, but now it's with less money. I don't think that child support is even nearly half of what I was getting towards the bills. I am no longer living in my once-adored home, because I gave it up to him. He was not leaving, and I stayed as long as I could. I was pretty much forced out, but that's okay. I didn't know how I was going to pay that mortgage along with the taxes and insurance alone anyways. It takes time to adjust to a new place, especially when you have children. They don't have their old room anymore and things just don't seem the same. Loneliness sets in, but you can make things better for you and for the children by spending more time with them. Set aside special events or slots of time to spend with them. Talk to them about things to help smooth things out. Let them know that it's a new beginning.

A Holiday He Missed With Our Daughter

Getting through the Thanksgiving Holiday turned out to be pretty alright indeed. I went through my normal routine, kids all come back home except for one, and dinner went well. My only gripe is, that my daughter's dad (my ex) didn't even call her once. No phone call to see how she was enjoying the holiday, and to top all that off, she tried calling him many different times during the past 7 days that she has been off from school with no answer from him, only his answering machine. I felt so bad for her because even though he was rotten to me, and to "us" as a family, she still loves him, and rightly so, it's her dad. I kept reminding her that he might have been busy, or maybe he would call her back, but she got nothing. No amount of words from me will ever make this up, and even though it's just a phone call, he is only 10 minutes away and he really has no excuse for not visiting or calling. What a lovely daughter he is missing out on !!!

Time Spent Without So Much Worry

Our daughter was going on with life normally, making fairly good grades at school, coming home and riding her bike. She also developed a want for a horse. Geez, this was not a good time to want something so gigantic, much less it was something that I just could not afford at the time. I found our local 4-H and we joined a group for horses. They were a wonderful group, and taught my daughter not only how to ride, and barrel race. but horse care too. I found this time with my daughter to be very calming. We spent alot of time together not only with 4-H activities, but riding horses and practicing technique on the weekends. Although we didn't have our own horse,we borrowed horses from the 4-h group, and this gave my daughter a chance to learn something that she really took interest in. We volunteered at Christmas time wrapping presents and doing the 4-H thing and it really took my mind off my problems at home. This time was so very important though because I needed to find myself. I needed to spend much needed time with my daughter. Not only that, I had a chance to separate my problems from him. This helped me more than I can actually say.