Youv'e Discovered Cheating.....Now What?

What happens next, if you have discovered infidelity going on in your home? What do you do about it? Do you confront him/her, wait and sit on it a little bit before telling him/her you know, or do you sweep it under the rug and hope that it was all a big mistake? Well, I made the mistake of confronting him way too soon, however, because he made me feel like what I thought I heard or saw wasn't really real. He had a way of twisting things around on me. I didn't like that feeling at all. At another time, I tried sweeping it under the rug, and that didn't help me either. I wanted to make it all go away. But it didn't. How can you confront him/her with phone calls and get an honest answer about it ? That might be impossible, but that doesn't mean that it isn't happening. Keep your eyes and ears open. Normally a man/woman that's cheating become very good at lying but they can't keep it up forever. I found that in my case, when he knew I was asking questions, he became better at his lies.

Infidelity, It's Nothing New To Our Day...

Infidelity has been around for a very long time. It kind of makes you wonder why a hard learned lesson keeps happening over and over again, almost like no-one has even been hurt or ever learned from their mistakes. When my ex cheated on me, I felt like I was the only one in the world who had been touched by such a horrific act. I didn't think about anyone else going through it, except for what I was going through and how it was affecting me and my children. I think that sometimes we get hurt so badly that our world just stops spinning and nothing else seems to matter. Truth be told, infidelity is nothing new....it's been around as long as forever. What makes someone want to hurt another person so bad and still think it's ok? Have we not learned from our mistakes? I will remember when going into another relationship, that we are all just human, and underneath all the love, there will be mistakes, but honestly, if it ever happens again, I will just have to decide to live my life alone. I hope that I never get to that point.

The Big "I'm Sorry!"

I don't know where to begin as far as forgiveness. I had heard it time after time those all famous and familiar words "I'm sorry". Why do those words seem to be so easy coming out of his mouth, especially when he knows I am tired of hearing it. If he were truly sorry, then he wouldn't have kept cheating on me over and over again. After the first time and the first "I'm sorry" he should have been sorry enough to try and straighten out this mess he helped to put us in. Where do you start forgiving? How can you just pick up the big mess that he's piled in front of you and just act like things are ok? What can I do to even start the process of forgiving when I 'm hurting so badly?

If You Have Children

My mother told me one day, as I was ranting and raving about my soon to be ex, that I would truely never get rid of my him. WHAT? I was stunned, shocked and it blew my mind that she told me that. Oh yes, I will, I thought. However, as such in most cases, moms are mostly right when they say something that they know about. She finally explained it to me. When you have children with a man, even though you and him split up or divorce, you will always have a part of him right there with you because every one of your children have features not only from you, but of him too. They might have his looks, or even some of his habits. Either way, he's still there. Geez, I didn't want to believe her, but every single one of my children has something from their father. Don't you just hate it when they're right?

Moving On Past Infidelity

Oh, this is one of the hardest things in life, well, maybe it's just me, but after being with someone, sharing your life with them, and then to have it all come crashing down on you is life altering. Here is my checklist for reasons to move on past infidelity.

1. The past is in the past. You cannot change it no matter how hard you try.
2. Remembering CAN be a good thing, but dwelling on it can be disastrous to your health.
3. Forgiving can help your body let go of some of the heartaches that infidelity brings.
4. It's hard to move on and go forward with your life, if you are still looking back.
5. Starting a fresh new start can really help you see that there IS life after infidelity.
6. If you have children, they need us to be healthy and strong. Taking care of ourselves helps us to take care of them.