Again, The Question Of Why Did He Cheat?

I am still stumped after all these years as to WHY this had to happen to me! I have been back over it again and again to try and figure out what went wrong. I am positive beyond a shadow of a doubt that I did everything in my power to try and please him. I tried getting him involved more in family things which was hard, but he was mostly just about working and doing as he pleased. He loved working out in our garage, tinkering with his tools and such after work, and that was okay for me. I do not feel that I ever nagged him about anything nor did I treat him horribly. It always seemed that he was the one who wanted to start arguing and wanting to cause a flair-up, and now looking back on things, it was only to make me upset and give him a chance to get out of the house. I now believe that he was doing this so he would be able to get out of the house and go see his other woman without me knowing anything. But honestly, why was this neccessary? Why, if everything seemed to be going well with our marriage, would he want to be with someone else? This STILL does not answer the age-old question of WHY !!!  After all this time of him and me being divorced, he is now with his other woman, and I hope that he is happy. I still wished I had the answers, then it might have made it a little more easier for me to work through. Does anybody ever really know why?

Asking Those Questions Of Why!!!

It seems such a long time ago, but yes, it happened.....the cheating, the lying and the heartache of infidelity. People often ask me how I have managed to get past all of it.  I am here to tell you that the pain of your partner cheating is like no other pain. It's just a different kind of ache. You get married, or in some cases, just get with someone and expect that you will get the respect back that you have given them. After the dating process ends, and the down to earth living life begins, things change....it's supposed to change for the better.....you know, the being able to settle down a bit, knowing that THAT other person your'e with has your back. I don't really know why some people cheat, but it happens. Why did my ex-husband cheat on me when I gave him everything that I had? Why did he feel that my love wasn't enough? Why did he feel that he could get by with it and not get caught?  Had I done something to cause this cheating?......NO !  the answer is that I did NOT do anything to cause his cheating. And to be honest, those questions will never be answered.  For a long time I couldn't get past not knowing, but within time, I learned that there were no answers. How does someone get by with no answers?  It's not easy, but it is something that I have had to learn to live with. And I mean, it's hard, but it's do-able. I learned how to take one day at a time. I learned how to put myself first. I learned how to start doing things for myself and to stop looking back so much. Within time, things fade. The hurt will always be in the back of my mind, and the back of my heart, but NOW I feel like there have been many other new things taken it's place. I have learned how to live again, and to love once again. Time heals , but don't dwell on the questions of WHY....learn to start doing things for yourself, for your children if you have them, and start walking forward.  It CAN be done....I know it, because I am living proof.